As you begin wedding planning, you may find your input and ideas being unnoticed by your partner. Most likely they are doing this unintentionally and are simply being guided by their strong Wedding Planning Personality. Below are some tips on how to make your opinions heard when dealing with a partner with a Wedding Planning Personality different than your own.
1. Identify your partner's Wedding Planning Personality here.
2. Read the section below their personality type to learn how to express your opinions and get your ideas heard.
Be firm and prioritize. Your partner already has a good idea of what they want, so lots of input may get lost. Prioritize what is most important to you and be sure they hear you. If they breeze over input that you feel strongly about, go back to it and express yourself. Often a planner personality will say, "I didn't know you cared about it that much," to a less decisive partner. If they are aware you really care about something, they will take your opinions more seriously.
Focus on things other than numbers. Your partner has the budget under control and more facts and figures in their mind than you can probably imagine. Your opinions on decor, entree choices, and music will be much more valuable than your opinion on a caterer they ruled out on price months ago. Your thoughts on details and the feeling of your wedding day will work well with your partners personality to create a wonderful wedding day.
Make your opinions count. Don't just say something to say something. Your partner is easily overwhelmed and the constant bombardment of ideas only compounds the problem. Express your opinion when you feel strongly, but don't just throw out ideas because you have them. Help your partner narrow down existing ideas instead of adding ideas unless you feel strongly about them.
Help your partner see the good and bad sides of each decision. Making your opinion heard will be greatly appreciated. There are a lot of decisions to make and your partner may feel a bit bewildered. Use your input to guide the planning process, but try not to get bogged down in what ifs. For example, "I know you don't like pink, but what if we did it with sage green?" This is the perfect opportunity to tell your partner how you really feel. If you don't want pink, tell them. Then that will be one question off the table.
More in this series:
How to choose vendors that will work best with your personality type
Working with two different Wedding Planning Personalities to reduce your partner's stress